but getting back to the kids.... (age irrelevant), if EVERYONE is a winner then what is the incentive for winning? What if, during a spelling bee, at the end everyone got the same size trophy that said "1st place" on it? WTF? So the kid that studied for weeks to memorize spelling words get the same thing as the kid who played XBOX and just showed up? Do you think Colleges give out scholarships to anyone who applies, simply because they wouldn't want to hurt an applicant's feelings? Pffft You'd better have a good GPA, well rounded and be able to show them something, and the same transfers over into the work environment.
My boss was talking about how his 8 year old just finished a football tournament. 1st, 2nd, 3rd place all got trophies, all the same, even the cheerleaders all got trophies. So, being last is as good as first? Where is the incentive to get better? This is what I'm talking about, and this is why kids grow up to believe no matter what they do, it will just be handed to them, all they have to do is show up. Like Snair said, baseball games with no score? Are you kidding me? Guess what, someone will get their feelings hurt. I hate to lose, I love sports, and we lose and I hate it. So what do I do? I practice harder, to get better, so I won't lose again. Next time we play, I play harder, put in more of an effort etc etc...
I see what you are saying with the whole "just be happy in life" thing but that kind of strayed from what I was originally try to point out
In the Army we have a saying "train as you fight." In other words, we are fighting in Iraq right now against an insurgent force, so we aren't going to train for cold weather fighting against the Chinese hordes, because that would do nothing for us. In that same respect, we are not training our children for the reality of life, and at the end of the day it is going to hurt them.