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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-14-2007, 06:14 AM Thread Starter
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Are you one deminsional?

Here's the situation. You walk up to one of your co-worker's desks, he/she is typing an email or looking at their computer screen. You proceed to ask them a question, and they keep staring at their screen, possibly for a minute or longer and act like you aren't even there! It's almost as if, their brain cannot process two things at one time, they are so involved in pecking at the keys or reading that they cannot simply acknowledge your presence. Sure, they might be into an important task, but the LIVE HUMAN standing next to their desk takes precidence over the cold screen they are staring at. Even if you have to tell me: "hold on a minute, let me finish this and I'll be right with you" I'm ok with that. But, to leave me standing there like I'm talking to a brick wall is not only rude, but speaks volumes to their inability to process more than one thought at a time. Nobody is that busy, nobody is THAT "swamped." If you truly are, shut your door, or put up a sign that says "busy, come back later."

I've found some common trends among people described above. They are also the same individuals who will, after they acknowledge your presence, keep typing away while trying to hold a conversation with you. Are you really paying attention to me? Probably not. Turn AWAY from your screen, LOOK at me, and give me your attention. We can exchange what info we need to, and make sure the intent is clear. I wouldn't be coming to your desk if it wasn't important, so give me the time of day. I'm assuming you would want the same respect in return.

These area also the same one deminsional individuals that can only process one email at a time, and in turn only make themselves look stupid. Example, they come in after lunch to 30 emails in their inbox. They start from the bottom up, replying to each one in sequence. Nevermind that a few emails up there might be data which negates the requests in the older emails. The end result is them blasting out emails on issues that have already been actioned or resolved.

I don't claim to be a computer guru, but there are some things that should be standard around the office. There is no such thing (in most cases) as having too many things to do, or being too swamped. There is such a thing as time mis-mangement, or improper prioritization and delegation. Often times people waste minutes, HOURS even playing the email tag game, when all they have to do is pick up the phone, or walk into the next room to have a conversation. Alas, people are either too scared, or too one demisional to do this simple task.


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some may not be dumb. they have never learned how to manage the time or how to prioritize those tasks haha
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Maybe they just don't like you lol!
When someone walks into my office starts talking while I'm in the middle of something, I just hold up one finger and then go back to my task. Once I finish the section I'm on, I give them my full undivided attention. It works well, but some people really don't like it.

Just call me Captain Crash...

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Here is my situation judge it as you will..
I have a 14 year old daughter who since the day she learned to talk has not shut up. Try as I may, (with ball gags and such) I can't seem to get her to be silent. With nearly 14 years of non silence I have learned to "tune" her out. This has the unfortunate side effect that it also occurs when others try to speak to me as it is now a reflex action.
Now because of this constant "reflex" I have learned that I can only focus on one thing at a time. My wife and daughter are always mad at me cause I don't respond to them when watching TV or on the computer. I tell them that they have to have my attention before asking me questions. Apparently I don't care enough about them to know that the back ground chatter has changed from 'white noise' to them needing me to answer a question. This isn't a situation I like but was developed out of survival, otherwise I would never again be able to enjoy a good TV show, or read articles on the web.(Postwhoring on forums too) When somebody has my attention it is fully given, unless you are boring the crap out of me..I lose interest fast when there seems to be no summary of whatever story you are telling that I don't care about..


1 dimensional? Maybe. Or perhaps you aren't interesting enough for me to change my focus to.

DISCLAIMER: This statement was not aimed or intended toward any one person. Please take no offense, I tune everybody out, so it's not personal..

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wait, what Tony? Sorry, I was watching tv.......

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Here is my situation judge it as you will..
I have a 14 year old daughter who since the day she learned to talk has not shut up. Try as I may, (with ball gags and such) I can't seem to get her to be silent. With nearly 14 years of non silence I have learned to "tune" her out.
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wait, what Tony? Sorry, I was watching tv.......
That was great Tony.... I love it....



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Maybe they just don't like you lol!
When someone walks into my office starts talking while I'm in the middle of something, I just hold up one finger and then go back to my task. Once I finish the section I'm on, I give them my full undivided attention. It works well, but some people really don't like it.
I'm a people watcher/observer...I'm not the only one subject to this behavior, those in question do it to everybody :dj


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To answer your other question Phil, there are many types of people out there, When people come into my office try to give them full attention. If I'm in the middle of typing something I do like to finish the sentence or post () that I'm working on before giving them full attention though. If I'm on the phone I can normal help the person while I'm also talking to the other person on the phone as well. This all depends on what the issues are and how detailed they are. We have many people in our office that can only focus on one thing at a time and it's very common for most people to be like this.



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To answer your other question Phil, there are many types of people out there, When people come into my office try to give them full attention. If I'm in the middle of typing something I do like to finish the sentence or post () that I'm working on before giving them full attention though. If I'm on the phone I can normal help the person while I'm also talking to the other person on the phone as well. This all depends on what the issues are and how detailed they are. We have many people in our office that can only focus on one thing at a time and it's very common for most people to be like this.

yea, I've just never seen it quite like this before....where I walk up to a desk, wait a minute, say something....and am completely ignored Seems rather rude, all you have to do is say "I'll be right with you."


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phil people can be that busy at work LOL just not in the military LOLOLOL sorry...had to man...

I had more free time in the .mil then I have ever had since I got out.


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I guess I'm one dimensional like that. My computer at work shuts down around 6:00pm and I better have my paperwork done by then or it's because after that the work gets pawned off to the next person at 4:00am the next day, and that person would be my boss! With hundreds of returns to process and half of them needing to be boxed up, labeled and shipping documents made. We only have 1 person working at a time and that takes 100 percent effort everyday! There have been days where I find myself looking at all the work I have and feel like crying out of frustration because I know I might not finish in time. I cannot shut the door because I don't have one, my office is a steel cage. I tune people out because i REALLY have no time and their questions aren't very important when they ask anyways. It sucks to see people finish their shift and leave on time. I don't leave til my work is done, that's usually an extra half an hour to an hour overtime everyday. I could go on bitching but I think your rather lucky that your only rant here is that you weren't acknowledged when needed to talk to a co-worker.
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Here is my situation judge it as you will..
I have a 14 year old daughter who since the day she learned to talk has not shut up. Try as I may, (with ball gags and such) I can't seem to get her to be silent. With nearly 14 years of non silence I have learned to "tune" her out.
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:imwst damn if you could bottle that, you'd make a fortune :


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I was told that perpetual energy was impossible. But they haven't seen the power of her chatter.. You remember the cell phone commercial with the "caffeinated cheerleader"?

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...Nobody is that busy, nobody is THAT "swamped."
You're right.... but, I've done the "oblivious employee" thing on purpose plenty of times. I always hear what's going on in the background, and I always know when someone is there wanting my attention. It's kinda taxing, though, to have to stop my momentum to answer questions that don't involve my job function or something worthless like talking about when is the best time to set up a meeting to talk about certain items that "couldn't" be discussed at the time because of lack of preparation for our current conversation.

I pretend like I don't know what is going on around me in hopes that they will just pass me by... never works, but I'm still hopeful.

Sometimes I just put in my earbuds like I'm listening to music when I'm actually not listening to anything at all; i just want people to think I can't hear them and maybe they'll leave me alone.... never works but I'm still hopeful.

Occasionally, an intelligent question comes along and that person gets my FULL attention, but usually it's worthless mumblings and random banter that makes me more ineffective at my job.


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If someone has a thought going I don't see a problem with continuing it before they stop and give you attention. Some people just like to finish a task before they move on to another. I could see waiting a min or so, but not much longer. I can surely see it if they have a good feeling that what they are doing is more important then what you're about say. Happens in the business world a lot. Emails are taking over for personal communication.


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